WHAT WE DO
At Coaching for Couples by a Couple in the San Mateo, CA area, we offer couples counselling as well as life coaching for individuals.
At Coaching for Couples by a Couple in the San Mateo, CA area, we offer couples counseling as well as life coaching for individuals. After more than 35 years of marriage, we have come to realise that being happy in a marriage is not about finding the right person but about being the right person. When we first were married, we each had our own way of assuming that the other person was the one who really needed to change, not us. Were we wrong! All along we should have been able to see what was preventing us from being more intimate and loving with each other, but we did not know how. Over time, we learned how to communicate in order to get our needs met, so that instead of arguing and fighting, we could negotiate our way out of our problems. We are happy to say that we still are each other’s best friends!
At Coaching for Couples by a Couple, we coach couples to improve their marriages and individuals to improve themselves. In this regard, we are life coaches, not therapists. Therapy is a “present/past” oriented process that deals primarily with analysing how your families of origin and your past experiences have influenced you for better and for worse to make you the person you are today. Life coaching is a “present/future” oriented process that shows you how to take new actions in order to let go of whatever these actions dredge up in you, so that you can be the best person you can be, both personally, professionally and in your marriage.
If you choose to partner with us for marriage coaching, we will support you to create a new beginning in your relationship. Almost 80% of the conflicts that couples experience occur because both people are trying to lay their “wants” on each other, rather than understanding each other’s needs. Our method will empower you to break this self-defeating tendency. You will then be able to face the issues in your relationship with less judgement, and more honesty, trust, and humour. Instead of blaming each other, you be able to work things out more easily, as genuine friends and life partners.
If you choose to partner with us for individual life coaching, we will support you to create a new beginning with yourself. As your coaches, we will listen to your questions and concerns, and help you to see and let go of past problems and hurts, so you can start over with yourself and be who you truly are! We look forward to meeting and helping you get one step closer to a happier, more fulfilling life.